We are all guilty of gossip, because like I said, it comes naturally. (sadly) it's part of being human, being imperfect, making mistakes. And you know? it's not even just a problem for young people, everyone does it. I do it. I am so guilty of this, just like everyone else! but I'm really working on it.
And I just wanna tell ya how.
I've learned this; you can either join in and feed the fire, or you can turn the direction of conversation right around. You don't even have to change the subject! just put a positive spin on whoever you are talking about. (Or you can change the subject, that totally works too) Be the example of the group, without being holier-than-thou. The others can gossip all they want later.
Gossip about people's goodness, not their flaws! If one person talks about how "that girl is so superficial" you could chime and be all like, "did you see her prom dress?! she looked so pretty!" Soon enough, you'll be talking about prom dresses instead of people.
GIVE PEOPLE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. I've been working so hard on this, just with people in general, and making judgments. We all have people we aren't fans of, but you know what? If you don't like them, you probably don't know them that well, and you can't hate someone who's story you don't know.
In some cases, you will know someone's story, but you still aren't too fond of them. Maybe they're a rude person, and in that case, realize that venting is different than gossiping. You vent to one person, not a whole group of people who will spread that like peanutbutta and make things into a big peanutbutta mess.
We humans need to learn to accept the fact that some people are superficial and maybe a little fake, but talking about that person's flaws does absolutely NO GOOD. so just think before you open your mouth to feed the fire.
“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.” -Steve Maraboli
If you made it through this, good on' ya! Also, photo up there courtesy of one of the best movie scenes of the sixties from Bye Bye Birdie. Cracks me up. and in case you were wondering, I would be the girl on the right.
Have a happy Sunday, and go spread some nice friendly rumors this week!